A school of thought describes life as the aspect of existence that processes, acts, reacts, evaluates, and evolves through growth (reproduction and metabolism). The crucial difference between life and non-life (or non-living things) is that life uses energy for physical and conscious development. But life actually is you and your mind. Many people wonder why and how things seem to be working out right for others while they turn out to be handicapped. The question is are you really handicapped?
Your mind is one of the strongest and most useful powers you possess. This power, together with your imagination, can create success or failure, happiness or unhappiness, opportunities or obstacles. This depends on your mindset. Your thoughts are the main ingredients of this power, and when you add to them, focus and emotions, thoughts become powerful and can affect your reality.
In one of the songs written by the Westlife “flying without wings,” the lyrics of the song says everybody is looking for that something, one thing that makes it all complete. They may be talking about love, but ask yourself, WHAT AM I LOOKING FOR? WHAT DO I WANT IN ORDER TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE?
What Is Your Happy Life?
The definition of a happy life is relative. It’s the feeling of truly enjoying your life, and the desire to make the very best of it. Happiness is the “secret sauce” that can help us be and do our best. Here’s what researchers found when they studied happy people: Happy people are more successful. Happy people are better at reaching goals. Isn’t that interesting? It falls back to the power of the mind!
Dreaming Of A Happy Life
To dream of a happy life, you yearn for is okay. It’s the kick-start. It’s the greatest foundation you can ever establish in order to have your happy life well built. In dreaming of that happy life, here are some things you can do to make it a reality:
1. Think in Possibilities and not Limitations
Life is limitless. The moment we start to think otherwise we start to put restraints on ourselves and our abilities.
Too many people limit their potential because they don’t want to spend the time it requires to get to where they want to be. They focus too much on the limitations of what they have which holds them back from the possibilities of what could be.
Whether you’re talking about the possibilities of your career, the possibilities of your health or the possibilities of your relationships; you need to think about what you can do to achieve what it is you’re aiming for. Stop making excuses because so and so doesn’t like you, or your city doesn’t have the economic support for your business and do something.
Do something meaningful and do something that defies what others thought was impossible.
2. Ignore Societal Comparisons
The only competition you need to think about right now is the person you see when you look in the mirror.
You’re competing against the person in the mirror who tells you to sit back and relax when you have hard decisions to make. You’re competing against the person in the mirror who doesn’t control their emotions and acts irrationally during high-stress situations.
Focus on you. Don’t worry about the guy you went to high school with and don’t worry about your colleague. Constantly checking your life against someone else is a horrible way of living. While it’s cliche, “don’t try to keep up with the Teddy’.”
Instead of looking at the story that someone else is writing and taking a stab at replicating it, focus on your story and do something that will make your story worth reading.
3. Label your emotions.
Most people have an aversion to talking about or showing their feelings. As a result, many people have become quite distanced from their feelings, which makes it hard for them to even recognize how they’re feeling in any given moment.
And when adults do label their feelings, they often do it in an indirect manner. Rather than saying, “I felt sad,” someone might say, “I had a lump in my throat,” or, “My eyes got watery.” Or, instead of saying, “I am really nervous,” someone might be more included to say, “I have butterflies in my stomach.”Spend a few minutes every day acknowledging your emotional state.
Label your feelings and consider how those emotions are likely to affect your decisions. Whether you’re feeling sad about something in your personal life, or you’re worried about something going on in the office, your emotions will spill over into other areas of your life if you aren’t aware of them.
4. Establish your goals.
The human brain is naturally predisposed to reach for and achieve goals. And not just one big goal, such as I want to lose 50 pounds. Also, set more manageable short-term goals such as I want to work for 30 minutes without checking my phone or I want to reply to all of my emails by noon today.
With each goal you achieve, you’ll gain more confidence in your ability to succeed. You’ll also learn to recognize when your goals are unrealistically ambitious and when they’re not challenging enough.
5. Set yourself up for success.
Becoming mentally strong doesn’t mean you have to subject yourself to temptations every day. Make your life a little easier by modifying the environment.
If you want to work out in the morning, leave your shoes next to the bed at night and sleep in your gym clothes.
On the other side, If you want to eat healthier, remove the junk food from your pantry. When you set yourself up for success, you won’t exhaust your mental energy trying to resist the urge to sleep in or to dig into a bag of potato chips.
6. Balance your emotions with logic.
You make the best decisions when your emotions and logic are in sync. If all your decisions were emotional, you wouldn’t save for retirement because you’d be too busy spending your money on what makes you happy right now.
But if all of your decisions were logical, you’d live a boring life devoid of pleasure, leisure and love. Whether you’re buying a house or thinking of a career shift, consider the balance between your emotions and logic.
If you’re overly excited or especially anxious, write down a list of the pros and cons of moving forward with the decision. Reviewing that list will boost the logical part of your brain and help balance out your emotions.
Positive thinking is often said not to work but that is because it has often been implemented in an entirely different wrong way. These tips if executed will help you enjoy a happy and positive life.