Have you ever searched for something interesting to say? Wondered how to make new friends, build or strengthen relationships and networks? You aren’t alone. There are millions of people in your shoes.
Heck, I used to have a similar challenge but these days I can talk to almost anyone and handle everyday social situations with ease. However, it’s been a long journey fraught with confrontations before I reached my destination.
There is no doubt about it. Communication skills are very vital for personal development and success. Whether you want to improve your romantic relationships. Build networks with professionals. Or even closer bonds with family, then you must polish your communication skills.
Communication should be natural, so, why do we find it challenging. In this article, I am going to show you some easy and practical tips. They will enable you to enhance and enrich your personal development and success
8 Communication Habits to Strengthen your Relationships
- Develop Good Listening Habits
Before you even think about your responses to other people, do well to sharpen your listening skills. It is frustrating when you are having a conversation with someone, the whole body is present but the mind isn’t. Listening isn’t simply about giving another person the chance to vocalize what’s on their mind though that is also valuable. It is the first step towards a personal change.
Listening is so much more. It’s a way of providing someone else the opportunity to share their ideas and opinions to build emotional intimacy and empathy. Listening is a great way for everyone who wants to stand out and become exceptional. Attention is required here a lot.
- Focus on Behavior Not Character
Do you happen to know someone who seems popular with everyone, yet at the same time refuses to sugarcoat the truth?
The folks have the ability to give criticism without making enemies and to patch up any disagreements within minutes. In building relationships, your main focus should be on behaviour, thus what someone has actually done not their personality or attitude in general.
This works a lot in the professional field, the world of work. Use it whenever you want to call someone out on their behaviour. It is an awesome technique because it stops people from getting defensive.
- Offer a Helping Hand
Giving and receiving help is part of human nature. We are built to be vulnerable thus no man is an Island. Lending a hand to someone who needs practical, emotional support is rewarding and it can enrich your relationships.
Unfortunately offering help is not always simple but today you are going to learn how to reach out to someone in need. There is a thin line between offering someone help and making comments that imply they are incompetent. Withholding help can make you appear odd and mean.
As a result, the best way to offer help is to tell the person what actually you are reaching out to. The person will then understand that your offer is motivated by a desire to make their life easier.
- Be An Inclusive Communicator
How do you feel when you are speaking to yourself? Communication involves a dialogue between or among two or more parties. Thanks to globalization, people from all backgrounds now work and socialize together.
Inclusive communication builds a harmonious relationship between individuals and can even boost businesses’ performance. I understand the fact that some people think, inclusive communication is too political. However, when your opinions land, you can’t get into trouble, if you don’t sustain with inclusive communication.
- Stop putting yourself down
Do you tend to dismiss your achievement? Then your questions are beSt explained to them. Sometimes you need to have confidence in yourself. Everyone experiences such moments. And the best thing is to realize that everyone who goes through life without self-doubt has not really gotten anywhere yet.
It is healthy and necessary to take a step back and identify areas for improvement. You can do this by doing a critical review of your past. It is very essential because you will be engaging in dialogues, discussions with like-minded people and this will involve the exchange of ideas. Putting yourself down is a toxic communication habit that is harming most relationships and will affect your success greatly.
- Count The Number Of Times You Interrupt Other People
If you had to identify the most annoying communication habit, what would it be? Admittedly, there are a lot of attitudes but most of us will agree that being interrupted is among the most annoying. Interrupting people is easy to do then you can think of.
For example, if you are passionate about an idea and want others to know about it, your enthusiasm might bubble to the surface. But that’s where the challenge lies. Even if your ideas are excellent, your conversation will be too annoying to give them attention you deserve to earn, Interrupting can completely kill your chances of developing a good relationship with someone else and that’s not an exaggeration.
People will start to withdraw from you If they feel as though you are more interested in steamrolling over them with your personal point of view instead of getting to know them.
- Stop Trying To Score Points
Each individual can admit the fact that we like being right and it’s because we all have our points of view and it’s even more gratifying when we or rather think we know best. But the problem that comes in here is when we seek to prove the validity of our point making our opponents in the conversation feel like they have been wrong all these.
To be frank, that’s not the best, you know the old saying, it’s better to be happy than to be right. Yes, that’s what I mean here. Let go of the inconsequential little arguments and save your reasoning abilities for the stuff that actually matters. Sometimes even if you “win” in the argument, you will suffer in the long run.
Browbeating rarely works actually, the more you push someone in an aggressive way, the more likely he or she is going to shut you down. More often we concentrate on fighting back rather than concentrating on dissecting the evidence of the issue at hand.
- Practice Saying “Thank You”
Thank you is one of the most important phrases in our language. Human relationships are built on shared interests and good communication but also on mutual acts of service (which often is not spoken of) that each friend will be there in times of need for each other. No one will like whiny, ungrateful individuals who refuse to acknowledge their good fortune.
No matter your status or even how famous you are, developing this habit, to give thanks to everyone that helps out is an excellent way to develop a reputation as a happy, positive individual everyone wants to be around.
Build on a bare thank you even by adding some words to ensure you leave a lasting impression with those you encounter each day. This enhances your social and mental intelligence as research shows that people who are thanked for their efforts enjoy greater mental health.
All is set now; a lot has been talked about. Communication is a skill. And to enrich it, you need to practice all these tips consistently and give your utmost attention when working them out. This will gear up your emotional intelligence and social intelligence as we can’t live in a society without these confrontations. These tips are our everyday experience and we need to refine and make efforts to create your unique personal branding for society.